Magical Tips for a fulfilling long-lasting relationship

11 years and wow what a journey it’s been! I feel more in love than ever and more in sync with my partner than ever… but, we’ve had our moments and it’s not always been easy. We’ve overcome some of the hardest hurdles any relationship can be faced with and together we’ve put in the work to thrive.

We are given many different CHOICES in life. In any serious relationships, you get to choose who you share your soul with and ride the wave called life. The best piece of advice I can share for anyone in any type of relationship is to allow your choices to EMPOWER and UPLIFT you. Where you can be present, authentic and allow your heart to open to love.

At the beginning of my relationship with Garth I had a difficult time allowing him ‘into’ my world as a caregiver. It was partly out of fear he wouldn’t want to be a step dad to Stella that it would be too much, but also an insecurity that I wasn’t enough. It took me some time to open my heart fully and to be vulnerable enough to expose myself, but it was so worth it. It brought us closer.

Being able to step into truth and real love allowed me to open my heart and to create beautiful memories with my soulmate.

I’m sharing my top ‘lessons learned’ through times of joy, pure love, and true heart breaking hardships to evolve and strengthen your connection for a fulfilling and long lasting relationship.

Crystal Clear Communication

This is a biggie! You don’t know what your partner is thinking and they have no idea what you are. Be open, vulnerable and especially if you disagree. When you enter into a soulful relationship there is no place to hide, remember you are on the same team!

Listen

We all desire to be heard. So it’s imperative that we practice consciously listening to our partners — without interrupting. If your partner walks in the door after a tough day and just needs to be heard, hold space without the need to offer an opinion.

Be open to growth

We all evolve, our interests change over time, as do our needs. Be open to supporting your partner and be an active participant in the relationship not just when the sun is shining. Some of our hardest challenges have been when we’ve grown the closest together. When you feel stuck or stagnant this is when the difficult conversations need to happen. We are in it together, and above all remember you are not alone.

Do the work

Relationships are more than parenting, caregiving and paying bills. They take work and a commitment. The more love, time and energy you invest in them, and the more consistent your efforts, the more your relationships will grow, open wider and go deeper.

Together time

Together time doesn’t have to be about the bedroom. Go for a walk together, visit an art gallery, massage each others feet. Carve out time to connect. I get it, this can be a challenge if you have kiddos at home, careers and other demands that leave you feeling exhausted, burned out and tired. Your relationship will wilt if you don’t make time for each other, and i’m talking quality time, not where you sit side by side each buried on your smart phone!

Make time

We all lead full lives, and and have to-do lists and inboxes that seem to never end, but if you don’t make the time to ‘nourish’ your relationship, it will not flourish. You have to make your relationship a priority, just like you do with your own self-love rituals.

Be the partner you desire

It’s very easy to sit back and hope our partner shows up, reads our mind and knows exactly how to pleasure us. Be the one who show’s up first! Be the partner YOU desire instead of waiting for them to take the lead. Put aside your ego, be vulnerable… it’s super sexy!

Random acts of kindness

There are so many things you can do to keep the magic alive. For example, slip a little love note in his bag before he leaves for work, book in a ‘date night’ on your family calendar (even if it’s dinner at home and your curl up on the couch together), make his favourite meal, say I love you, massage his head, send a sexy text message to him… that will make him smile!

Remember you deserve to live a healthy vibrant life full of happiness and love!